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Appendix - Client Reproducible Worksheets

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Co-Addict Quiz
Replay track 4 for more information on this technique.
Family member or loved one of pedophilic client checks off significant feelings or behaviors towards the client.

            Concealing behavior of the client
            Protecting the client from consequences of behavior
            Denial of the obvious
            Feelings of responsibility for addict’s behavior
            Efforts to confront the addict with his or her "problem"
            Overlooking addict’s behavior
            Rationalizing addict’s behavior
            Belief that if client changed, all problems would disappear
            Strategies to control sexual activity of client
            Being sexual with the client to prevent the client from being sexual with others
            Intense mood swings from high to low
            Feelings of depression and remorse
            Secret pacts with other family members
            Distrust of each other within the family
            Loss of self-esteem or self-respect
            Feeling unique
            Unusual dreams
            Neglect of spiritual pursuits including prayer or meditations
            Suicide attempts or thoughts
            Decreased ability to work or function

Educating the Child Client
Replay track 7 for more information on this technique.
Parents of sexually abused clients review and implement following list of procedures to monitor child’s online activity.

  1. Everyone you meet online is a stranger—even your "friends."  A stranger is a stranger until you know them well and have your parents’ approval.  That cannot happen until you meet face to face.  Online friends are still strangers because you have not met them in person.
  2. Don’t believe everything you read when chatting online.  Anyone can say anything in live chat or in e-mail.  That 17 year old sweet-talking boy online may not be 17 and may not even be a boy
  3. Don’t give out personal information online to strangers.  Avoid giving out your family name, home phone numbers, or your address to strangers online.
  4. Don’t rush.  Meeting someone online and then arranging to meet the following week is reckless and dangerous.  Give it time.  If they are rushing you, be suspicious.
  5. Any successful friendship must be based on honesty.  It’s easy to exaggerate or deceive with online communications.  But successful friendships are based on common interests and honesty.  Don’t lie about yourself as you begin to make friends online.
  6. Don’t even think about meeting offline without discussing it with your parents.  If they want to meet you alone, be suspicious.  If they don’t want you to tell your parents about them, be suspicious.  Involve your parents just like with school friends.
  7. Tell your parents or a trusted adult if someone says anything to upset you online or shows you a picture that upsets you, makes you scared or disgusts you.  Don’t keep it to yourself.  It is not your fault that it happened.
  8.  Running away is a bad move.  Running away from your family to be with someone you met online won’t solve your problems.  There is a high chance that the person you are running to will be a bad person and you will get hurt.

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